by Rocky Mountain Stepmom
What Google Learned from Its Quest to Build the Perfect Team
This is a long article about which work teams are successful, and why.
It has a lot to do with the soft skills of being able to read others’
facial expressions and body language and respond to those. I think there
are parallels for families, too. Do the conclusions seem correct to
by Grace aka costofcollege
Among the 8 Tips for Dealing with Difficult Relatives During the Holidays is this one.
8. Find reasons to be grateful. Be thankful that you get to cook, or that you don’t have to cook. Be thankful that you get to travel, or that you don’t have to travel. Be thankful for your family or your friends. Be grateful for electricity and running water. Find something. Studies show that gratitude is a major happiness booster. Also, feeling grateful toward someone crowds out emotions like resentment and annoyance.
What are you grateful for? Do you expect to encounter difficult relatives tomorrow? Do you have relatives who put the “fun” in dysfunctional? I think tip #6 that recommends we not expect perfection is a good one. What else is on your mind this Thanksgiving eve?
What time do you usually eat Thanksgiving dinner? We’re eating earlier than usual this year, 1:pm, because some guests have to get on the road by early evening and some will be working early on Black Friday.
There will not be a post on Thanksgiving Day or on Friday, but let’s chat about anything you’d like. How’d your dinner turn out? Are you shopping on Black Friday? Is the global travel alert stressing you out or making you yawn?
Do You Have a Face-Finding Superpower for Fighting Crime?
This National Geographic article on people who fight crime by recognizing faces exceptionally well intrigued me. I read the New Yorker article (linked within) on prosopagnosia by Oliver Sacks and did the University of Greenwich facial recognition test. I recognized 5 out of 14 faces, so I’m not good at it, even though the faces are Caucasian and I grew up around mostly other Caucasians.
I’m curious about whether women would be easier to recognize than men are and whether women have roughly the same range of facial recognition ability as men do. I’m also curious if this ability changes with age. The military is largely young and male, and it seems like this ability would be really useful when fighting terrorism. I’m also curious if Mooshi thinks computers will ever be as good at recognizing people as super-recognizers are. Of course, I accept at face value the claim that the distribution of this talent in the population is largely Gaussian, like virtually every other human characteristic.
On a personal level, I read the article because I feel like I’m bad at remembering people and wondered just how bad I am. In the lab where I work, we wear bunny suits that cover your face. People have observed that colleagues notice women’s pregnancies earlier when they wear bunny suits, because of how their gait changes. In the lab, we recognize people by their gait rather than their face.
The article on Oliver Sacks made me think of my Dad and Mr. WCE, who can both remember how to get somewhere after a single visit. My Dad sometimes remembered which way to turn in a village in Germany nearly twenty years after his only visit. Mr. WCE carries a GPS now, but he hunted with topographic maps for his first couple decades in remote areas of Washington and Montana. To my knowledge, he’s never been lost. One of my friends has an uncanny ability to remember what people wear. She remembers my clothing, including shoes, and has occasionally made comments like, “You were wearing that shirt last time I saw you.” This talent amazes me, since in my world, the purpose of clothing is to keep other people from having to look at me naked. On an emotional level, I’ve enjoyed watching the development of Baby WCE’s face over the past months as I nurse her, from squished newborn to a face so like her father’s that my colleagues who saw her commented that she looks JUST like her Dad.
Are you a super-recognizer? Do any of my reactions trigger similar thoughts of your own?
by Grace costofcollege
In many business and social situations, there’s value in being savvy about brand names. Like it or not, we are often judged by our clothes, cars, and other accouterments of life. And knowing the same about others can help us be more astute in all types of relationships.
Here’s the hierarchy of luxury brands around the world
Do you know how to pronounce Hermes or other brand names? To make it easy on myself, I only say “Stella” when ordering my favorite beer.
The Right Way To Say 15 Brand Names You’re Mispronouncing All The Time
Are you brand-savvy? Can you tell the difference between a Cartier and a Timex? (Okay, that’s probably an easy one.) How important is it for you to know brands? Do you feel judged by the shoes you wear or the car you drive?
In a world where everyone gets a trophy how do we offer constructive but kind criticism?
With my kids a tug of war has ensued over my feedback of their Lego projects. An honest opinion from me is termed as being “too negative”. Too negative? Ha! Good thing they didn’t grow up in the home country where a few people told me, that I needed to watch my diet and get more exercise. It was true that compared to my peers I was fat.
How do you give criticism that is kind but effective? How can the receivers absorb the message yet not take offense? Let’s hear it for kind criticism.