Text taken/modified from a seminar description sent in by S&M
Milo mentioned no longer being able to tease his parents about certain topics (I can’t recall teasing my parents ever having been appropriate). Louise commented on expecting her parents to call when they get home from a long trip, which I think many of us do. After months (maybe over a year) of me pointing it out plainly, my mother may be beginning to realize that when she refuses to put things into words, or thinks things go without saying, I probably won’t have any idea what she’s thinking.
How has the relationship changed for you over time? For older posters, are you seeing changes in the ways your launched adult children relate to you? For those who no longer have living parents, please share your past experiences.
There will be no topic tomorrow on the holiday, the college process recap topic on Thursday, July 5 and no new topic on Friday Back to regular schedule next week.
If it’s from Apartment Therapy, you know it’s from me [S&M]
We’ve discussed the pros and cons of packing cubes so often that most people on the blog can probably tell you who does and doesn’t use them. But what about other travel organizers? This article, which first came out a year ago, includes a variety of organizers to take on the road.
I can vouch for the usefulness of a toiletries bag, but it has been years since I used the folding one from LLBean with a hook on it. I think my mom uses the one I gave her, but she checks luggage. We almost always carry everything on, so our bottles of liquids are much too small to take advantage of that bag. What I use most often is a little one from American Airlines that has a mesh compartment and a couple of pockets. I love it, and am surprised ti’s held up so well for several years. I wish I could find similar for sale, for when it eventually gives out. On the other things on this list—that’s a swanky looking jewelry organizer, and an itinerary that required so many baubles would probably be pretty luxe as well. Sigh. Not my life. I’m a sucker for things like the $5 organizer bag, but doubt I’d actually use it or the tech accessories thingy. Further downhill, replacing my usual system with a passport wallet would probably throw me into disarray, and the thought of a special bag just for bras makes me laugh. I’m on the fence about laundry bags; of course it’s useful to separate dirty things from clean, but if I shift things around in my packing system, then it doesn’t all fit together the same way. Besides, when I’m traveling, the only things that I absolutely rule out re-wearing because of hygiene are undies, and those don’t need a whole bag. Even a shirt with something dribbled down the front can work as a layering piece. I note that many commenters mention plastic bags and clear vacuum bags. I’ve been using vacuum bags recently (I like U-Haul’s much better than Zip-Locks; they’re harder to rip and easier to zip), and compression cubes are the one type that make sense to me.
What about you? What are your favorite travel organizers? Do you replace your usual daily routine when you travel, or expand it greatly?
Skimming through a Popsugar list of ways to have a better European vacation, (https://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Europe-Trip-Tips-43838449#photo-43838992 ) I found this direct hit for the Totebag crowd. It combines travel with fiction.
Totebaggers, suggest pairing of literature, art or film with your previous, scheduled or wish list destinations.
topic submitted by saacnmama
From an internet article.
If you’re a person on the internet, you’ve probably been getting a lot of emails from companies about privacy updates, all related to a new law that just went into effect in the European Union: the General Data Protection Regulation, known as the GDPR.
1. What is the GDPR?
It’s a set of data privacy laws that was approved by the European Parliament in 2016, and after a two-year transition period, it’s now law. It affects any company that handles the personal information of anyone in Europe, and that means any company that does business in Europe, even if it’s based in the United States or somewhere else in the world.
It’s much stronger than privacy regulations in the United States. It basically says that companies have to get explicit permission to collect and use your data, and that they have to let you see what they’re storing and allow you to remove it. If you’re in the EU, that is.
2. Why is the EU putting new regulations in place (and why isn’t the United States)?
The EU, being made up of lots of different countries, has a lot of rules around privacy and data collection and how data should be stored by companies not based in Europe. So really simply, the GDPR is an attempt to create one set of rules that everyone can follow, and it happens to enact the most consumer-friendly set.
The United States essentially has no federal privacy regulations around data collection, use and notification. The difference is really cultural; privacy is considered a human right in Europe, and of course, it’s a much more regulation-friendly environment. American citizens have a lot less concern about trading information for free goods or services, like email, maps, chat or photo sharing, and it hasn’t seemed necessary.
3. What do the new privacy regulations mean for users in the United States?
It depends on the company. In the short term, it means a lot of emails about updated terms of service and privacy policies, which you’ve already probably noticed. But some companies, like Microsoft, have said that it’s going to make the rules of the GDPR standard for every user, even people in the United States. So in theory, that could mean that you could call up Microsoft, ask to see what personal information it has about you and maybe ask Microsoft to delete it.
4. What do businesses need to do to comply?
First, they have to figure out if this applies to them. It applies to any business that processes the information of anyone located in the EU. There are probably some businesses that don’t realize that their mailing list is international.
And even if they don’t understand exactly how to comply with the new rules — because they are a little bit vague — experts say that they at least have to make a good-faith effort to get consent from people in the EU to collect and use their information.
5. What does the future hold for new privacy regulations? Could this be a new standard?
That’s the hope of a lot of privacy advocates. It is likely to have a trickle-down effect on big companies, at least. It will just be easier in the long run to have one set of behaviors for how you treat personal information . And it could lead other jurisdictions to craft new privacy rules in the image of the GDPR. California is working on very strong regulations, for example.
It’s also important to note, though, that this will have a lot of downstream impacts on companies, especially small ones that can’t take the risk of large fines if they expand into Europe. So the big will stay big and get bigger.
Totebaggers, have you been reading the new privacy notices? Are you planning to take any action to examine the data held on you? Are you actively concerned about privacy issues in general?
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1. Making the bed
2. Doing the dishes
3. Picking up dirty laundry
4. Quick countertop swipes
5. Vacuuming common areas
2. Scrubbing the shower
3. Taking out the trash
4. Doing laundry
5. Organizing your entryway, dining room or coffee table
These are so different than mine! When I make the bed during the day, it makes no difference to me. I fold back the sheets to air out when I wake up, and pull them straight sometime before going to bed. What is really worth making time for is putting things away. I have no trouble rinsing dishes off as they’re used or tossing things in the hamper, or even in the washing machine, as long as that next step isn’t blocked. What about you? What are your “must do” chores to keep your home clean?
This is a very verbal group, and we are fortunate to have some great writers here. Whatever our level of writing skill, it’s clear that we all like words to some degree; how else would we stick with a group that communicates nearly exclusively in writing? By this point, most of us have a good guess of the others’ ages. But stepping into the wayback machine, we may have deduced which generations others belong to partially based on vocabulary.
“How does a word get into a dictionary? It gets in because we use it and we keep using it, and dictionary editors are paying attention to us. If you’re thinking, “But that lets all of us decide what words mean,” I would say, “Yes it does, and it always has.”Dictionaries are a wonderful guide and resource, but there is no objective dictionary authority out there that is the final arbiter about what words mean. If a community of speakers is using a word and knows what it means, it’s real. That word might be slangy, that word might be informal, that word might be a word that you think is illogical or unnecessary, but that word that we’re using, that word is real.”
Link to ted talk on the subject
Have you adopted new words from your children, or colleagues, or social media?
By Mémé based on a post by saacnmama
Have you ever had a break in a significant relationship, one that you intended to mend, but the person died before you could?
S&M mentioned that seeing praise in the memorial comments for the traits you knew back in the day makes it all the more strange.
Sometimes a break is mostly a matter of drifting apart. I am sure most of us have been on the sending and receiving end of mid life facebook inquiries. Sometimes there is follow up, sometimes not.
0ther times there was a clear event or series of events that caused the break. If we were primarily at fault, we can look to the well known 9th step of AA and other recovery programs. “Make direct amends to persons [you have harmed], except when to do so would injure them or others.” Making amends is not merely apologizing or asking forgiveness, but taking action to repair any harm, if possible.
And reaching out to someone when we feel that we are the aggrieved party is very tricky. “I forgive you” is probably not the best opening line, even if it is true in a spiritual sense.
I recall a book in the 1980s, something like how to make peace with you parents (even if they are dead). That one was helpful to me. I think my Mom recommended it in the days before we had become close again.
Might be fun to see what people would do with this article—class, gender, working vs stay at home parent, it’s got it all! Or we could just discuss nomenclature and whether an instrument with a bowl 5” across qualifies as a spoon.