by Honolulu Mother
NYMag ran some advice for shy people attending office parties:
Advice for Shy People Forced to Attend Holiday Parties
Since I’m in the government sector, my office just doesn’t do the kind of party described there, but for those of you who do attend dressy evening office parties, do you think the article offers good advice? What tips would you add?
by Honolulu Mother
In this request for advice to New York Magazine’s Ask a Boss, an employee leaving a nonprofit worried that her soon-to-be-former boss expected her to still be available after her planned departure for another job:
‘I Quit, But My Boss Won’t Let Me Go!’
Have you ever had a previous job try to follow you to your new job? Do you have any tips for smooth transitions, both for leaving the old workplace in good shape to carry on without you and for preparing to hit the ground running in the new job?
by Seattle Soccer Mom
From a poll conducted on behalf of the NY Times:
- 25% think private work meetings with colleagues of the opposite sex are inappropriate.
- 30-40% say it’s inappropriate to be in a car with someone of the opposite sex.
- Nearly two-thirds say people should take extra caution around members of the opposite sex at work.
- A majority of women, and nearly half of men, say it’s unacceptable to have dinner or drinks alone with someone of the opposite sex other than their spouse.
These findings surprised me. I supervise both men and women and have weekly meetings (one on one) with the people I supervise. My office door is generally open unless we’re doing a performance review or discussing sensitive information. I wouldn’t be able to do my job if I couldn’t meet with men. I was surprised that 25% of the people in the poll said this would be inappropriate. I’ve also been in cars with men when we’ve gone to off-site meetings – not a big deal. I was surprised that so many people thought this would be inappropriate.
Totebaggers – what do you think of the poll results? Any that you agree or disagree with? Here’s a link to the article:
It’s Not Just Mike Pence. Americans Are Wary of Being Alone With the Opposite Sex.
Everyone from Mark Zuckerberg to Barack Obama has adopted a “work uniform” — here’s how to make yours
How to Perfect the Art of a Work Uniform
Would Totebaggers consider (or have you already adopted?) a work uniform? Personally, I like clothes and variety too much to wear the same things all the time!
There have been a few times when health crisis/issues have forced me to request even more flexibility at work. One time I was reluctant to share the details but I found that all up the management chain were very sympathetic and actually asked me what I was doing at work instead of taking care of the issue.
Recently one new hire didn’t work out because she had not got over the death of a grown child. I felt I was way more sympathetic than others in my workplace.
How have you managed a personal crisis and work? Have you been forced eventually to quit because things became too hard to manage?
How To Deal With Personal Issues At Work (Keep Personal Issues From Harming Your Job And Career)
Why Is Silicon Valley So Awful to Women?
Why Men Don’t Want the Jobs Done Mostly by Women
Totebaggers, how would you suggest decreasing sexism and increasing the number of women in tech? Law? Banking? Other fields? On the other side of the coin, how would you increase the number of men in “pink collar” jobs? Or would you rather leave well enough alone? If gender gaps in certain jobs/industries don’t bother you, why not?
Open offices – The WP reported a while back that open offices were bad for business. Do you agree? How many Totebaggers work from private offices? Cubicles? Open offices?
Google got it wrong. The open-office trend is destroying the workplace
Do any Totebaggers’ jobs have unusual perks? What are they? What perks would you like to see your workplace implement?
I have worked in my industry and in my city for all of my professional life. I can say that over the past 30 years office wear has become more casual for both men and women. While some meetings and events still require formal business attire, mostly it is business casual. I came across this infographic. Of course it includes click bait – “style tricks that could earn you a promotion” – that pertains only to women.
I would agree with some of this, but maybe it is due to our warmer climate, but short sleeves (that come half-way between your shoulder and elbow) are not an issue in the work place. However, cap sleeves, sleeveless or spaghetti straps are offlimits unless they are under a jacket for women. I am surprised at how many younger women (35 and younger) try to pull off leggings in the workplace. It struck me last week when I went into the office, the number of leggings and tunic sweaters I saw.
How do people dress in your workplace?
This Infographic Is Your Ultimate Guide to Dressing for Work
by Honolulu Mother
This NYMag article briefly summarizes a much longer Harvard Business Review article by Adam Grant and Reb Rebele on the trade-off between being a giver at work (good for the organization!) and being too generous with yourself (bad for you!) The sweet spot is apparently to be generous, but to know your limits and keep something back for yourself.
Where do you fall along the spectrum from taker to selfless giver (there’s a grid in the HBR article), at work and at home? I suspect most of us will self-report as self-protective givers, the sweet spot, but I also suspect that category covers a wide range from aiming to have everyone owing you just one more favor than you owe them, to being an almost-selfless giver who holds just enough in reserve to avoid burnout. And, I suspect most of us are closer to the selfless-giver end of the spectrum at home than at work.