Some of us have expressed an interest in traveling to various locations and staying there a month or more just getting to know and enjoy the areas. These would likely be post-retirement trips since we typically don’t have the vacation time to do this while we’re working.
To my surprise Miami Beach recently caught my eye as a place to spend a leisurely month. Maybe I’m too old to enjoy the cool vibe of South Beach, but I’m still intrigued. Plus it’s just a generally beautiful location that probably offers a number of short side trips that would be worth exploring. What do you think? Yay or nay on Miami Beach?
What, if any, locations would you consider for a month-long stay? Domestic and international. What locations would you recommend? Give us details on local activities that would help us decide if they might tempt us. Let’s share our inside scoop on long-term trip possibilities.
Here’s a retired couple that spends most of the year on long trips all over the world. Ultimately they built a home in California that precisely meets their needs and was designed to easily rent out to other travelers while they are away.
You never know what might happen on the road. Stepping out your door into the unknown is what makes travel so exciting. Each day brings endless possibility, but that possibility is for both good and bad. You may end up enjoying a day sightseeing in Paris — or getting robbed in Berlin. You may spend an amazing day on the beaches of Thailand — or suffer food poisoning in Costa Rica.
The author’s tips are basic and include packing a flashlight, taking extra credit cards, and keeping a list of emergency contacts. But I know travelers do not follow this advice.
Here is someone who shares her advice after a bad experience.
Being prepared and staying safe is not just important for traveling. Even just stepping out the door for local trips should include some thinking in advance. I always try to have some cash with me, but some young people don’t seem to find that to be a necessary precaution.
What’s the Best Way to Match a B’ful, Homely Bride With a H’som W’stld Groom?
India’s parents use abbreviation-stuffed newspaper ads, not the internet, to seek marriage partners for their children
A majority of marriages in India are still arranged, often with parents meeting before the potential bride and groom get a chance to see each other….
Potential brides are B’ful and grooms H’som. SM4 is suitable match for, and Send BHP means send biodata (or a résumé), horoscope and photo. W’stld is well settled, meaning well paid. Wkg is working. PQ means professionally qualified, T’tot is a teetotaler, and a PSU is a public sector unit—where jobs impress.
The ads also often list the father’s job—fthr sr bnk offcr, or father senior bank officer, for example.
The personals also have their own unique vocabulary. If a woman is listed as “homely” it means she doesn’t work. If a man is issueless (abbreviated as i’less) after a divorce, it means he doesn’t have children. Potential mates listed as having a “wheatish” complexion have light-brown skin.
Let’s play matchmaker. Write a marriage ad for someone — your children, another relative, a friend, or even yourself or your spouse. Highlight their most attractive qualities. (Add in “buyer beware” warnings if you want.) Do your best sales job!
I’ve only recently noticed more cases of family estrangement, both among people I know and among celebrities, and I agree with the myths as explained in this article. No family is immune, and for the first time I’ve considered the possibility that this could happen in my nuclear family. It’s sobering.
Instead of diving into a list of New Year’s resolutions, Gretchen Rubin suggests a Year-End Review with Myself. One part of the review process involves making an end-of-year ta-da list. It might inspire you to visualize priorities for the coming year.
In episode 134 of the “Happier” podcast, for our weekly “Try This at Home” tip, Elizabeth and I suggested making a ta-da list. Make a list of everything you’ve already accomplished. You’re often pleasantly surprised and energized to see how much you’ve done, and giving yourself credit for your efforts often make it easier to keep going.
What’s on your 2017 ta-da list? Does it inspire you to build on any specific accomplishments for 2018?
Related, what were your best and worst financial moves in 2017? Which purchases and financial planning actions were winners, and which were losers?
On the heels of the holiday music topic from yesterday, today we can discuss cookies and other holiday sweets.
Frosted sugar cookies are included in my favorites. I go for the rustic look with no sprinkles or other decorations that take away from the basic cookie and frosting combination.
What are your favorite cookies? Is baking cookies a holiday tradition? Do you give sweets as gifts? Which cookies remind you of your childhood? Which are your least favorite? Please share your favorite recipes. And feel free to discuss other holiday recipes.
During a recent dinner conversation I found a sharp division between generations on the topic of sharing salary numbers. Older employees thought secrecy was a good idea but younger ones thought transparency was best.
Managing a generation of young people inclined to share relationship statuses and meal photos on social media requires employers to adjust the way they approach compensation, experts say.
“Pay and promotions are not secretive topics anymore,” says Mary Ann Sardone, who consults with large employers on compensation issues and leads the workforce-rewards practice at benefits consultant Mercer, a unit of Marsh & McLennan Co MMC 1.33% s.
“Companies are spending more time ensuring their pay decisions are fair, and highlighting career paths under the assumption that the information is going to be widely shared,” she says….
When Cameron Feenstra received a job offer this summer from Prattle Analytics, a St. Louis-based research firm, the first thing the 22-year-old did was call his sister. Although he was willing to take a below-market salary for the chance to work at a fast-growing startup, Mr. Feenstra wanted to ensure that his offer of $42,000 was a fair annual salary for his role as a junior quantitative analyst.
After talking about salaries with friends and family, and consulting anonymous career and salary-sharing websites such as Glassdoor, Mr. Feenstra decided to negotiate for more money, even though it was his first real job in the field.
“People who don’t ask around never learn how to negotiate, because they don’t know where everyone else is” in terms of salary as a reference point, Mr. Feenstra says. He got a pay bump to $45,000 before accepting the offer.
The attitude shift has put greater pressure on employers to explain why some workers are paid more than others and to formalize compensation and promotion practices, says Kristina Launey, a partner at law firm Seyfarth Shaw LLP, which specializes in labor and employment issues.
What do you think? Secrecy or transparency? Do you believe that secrecy helps perpetuate the gender wage gap? Do you share salary information with co-workers, friends, or extended family members?
This is the time of year for deciding on a health insurance plan and other employee benefits. It can be complicated. Our plan includes the use of a health advocate at no extra cost. Among the services offered are open enrollment assistance, care coordination, and assistance with complex medical conditions.
Have you completed your enrollment paperwork? Any questions or advice to offer?
Homeowners are increasingly leaving painting to the pros, complicating business for paint makers and retailers…..
“More and more is being done by the professional painter,” said Dan Calkins, president of global sales at Benjamin Moore & Co. “People just don’t have the time.”
Nicole Buddin, a 31-year-old marketing manager in Chicago, recently hired pros to help paint her new house in the suburbs after she and her husband painted their condo in the city themselves three years ago.
“It’s just so time consuming,” she said. “We swore we wouldn’t do that again.”
Whether it’s home renovations, repairs, or maintenance, it seems the people around me are relying more on professionals. Maybe it’s because we’re getting older!
Have you noticed a “shift from DIY to do-it-for-me”? Did you used to do more around the house? Any DIY projects planned for this long Thanksgiving weekend? Is tomorrow’s meal DIY or do-it-for-me?
Here’s an idea: what if you decide to gift only experiences this year? How much more memorable will your holidays be?
Consider these experiences: concert tickets, a home-cooked meal, tickets to a play or a musical, breakfast in bed, a back rub, a foot rub, a full-body massage, a holiday parade, walking or driving somewhere without a plan, spending an evening talking with no distractions, making-out under the mistletoe, visiting a festival of lights, cutting down a Christmas tree, watching a sunrise, skiing, snowboarding, sledding, dancing, taking your children to a petting zoo, making snow angels, making a batch of hot apple cider, taking a vacation together, watching a wintertime sunset.
What other experiences can you give to someone you care about?
Of course each of us charts our own course for peaks and valleys so these broad conclusions can be meaningless for any one person. Are you on the fast track for some of these milestones but a late bloomer for others? Share your observations.
Many of us would like to lose just a few pounds, maybe 10 pounds or less. Often the extra weight has slowly crept up slowly over the years.
At 6-foot-2 and 195 pounds, Mr. Edis, the chief executive and a founder of the smart-car start-up Dash, cuts an impressive figure to other people. But when he takes off his black V-neck T-shirt, he can see the extra pounds (he would like to be down to 185). And he is not fine with it.
Is Mr. Edis realistic? Many of us are in his shoes, wishing to lose just 5-10 pounds. Partly it may be because we wistfully remember our body’s glory days, roughly from the teen years to mid thirties, and we’d like to recreate some of those bygone images. Realistically it is nearly impossible for the average person to continue to weigh the same as they did back in their twenties so perhaps we should give up that hope once and for all.
Here’s someone else who’s gained a few pounds along the way.
What about you? Do you want to lose just a “few” pounds? Or do you believe that’s a fool’s errand and have accepted that you’ll probably carry that extra weight for the rest of your life? Some of us here have lost considerably more weight, or are currently working on losing more. Are you happy with your weight or do you fret about it?
There are many cost of living rankings out there, but most of them give cost of living averages for the “average American household.” Here’s the issue – the “average American household” doesn’t exist. Income and expenses vary widely between a single millennial to a household of two parents and three kids. Our cost tool explores the costs and expenses of living in a place based on your own, specific needs.
The True Cost of Living tool allows you to add details like household size, income, occupation, and even food preferences.
Many of you will be pleased that packing cubes are recommended. Right now I’m looking for a more efficient toiletry bag, one that hangs on a hotel door hook..
In shopping for a rolling bag recently I noticed that four wheels (spinners) seem more popular than two wheels. I prefer two wheels because it’s slightly more compact and I don’t notice the extra ease of a four-wheeler.
At what age did your children become mostly responsible for packing their own suitcases?
Students’ career paths after college are often surprising and difficult to predict given students’ majors. Not only do students from the same major transition into a surprising variety of occupations, they also earn very different incomes: to take one example, the 3.4 percent of English majors who become managers earn a median salary of $77,000, while the 8.3 percent of their counterparts who become elementary and middle school teachers earn $51,000. Different career paths and the associated earnings differences for students with the same college major are pervasive and important for understanding both the benefits of college majors and of college itself.
Using data from the U.S. Census Bureau’s American Community Survey, we have calculated annual median earnings for men and women of various ages who have graduated with a particular major and entered a given occupation. For each group of college graduates, we show the most common types of jobs, as well as the fractions of graduates who are unemployed, out of the labor force, and employed full- or part-time. In addition, among each group of workers with a particular major, we show the range of annual earnings and the percent who obtained education beyond a bachelor’s degree for the most common types of jobs. This interactive is intended to be a resource for those who seek a better understanding of how their college major can be used, as well as those interested in how college specialization and the labor market interact.
You can play with the interactive charts at The Hamilton Project. Unfortunately these charts don’t take into account one of our favorite topics, college selectivity.
The Q&A a Day Journal shows you what was going through your head each day—for five years of your life. Simply turn to today’s date, answer the question at the top of the page, and when you finish the journal, start over. As you return to the daily questions again over the years, you’ll notice how your answers change, or don’t!
So, what’t the craziest thing you’ve done for love? Did it work out well?
What do you think of this journal or other ones that allow the writer to jot down short entries? Do you keep a journal or sometimes wish you did?
… The seeds of resilience are planted in the way we process the negative events in our lives.
Sheryl Sandberg’s latest book is about building resilience. Have you heard of the “three P’s”?
… After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that there are three Ps — personalization, pervasiveness, and permanence — that are critical to how we bounce back from hardship,” Sandberg said. …
Resilience is a critical life skill. Some people seem to possess an abundance of resilience, but how much of it is is nurture and how much nature? In other words, how much can be taught? Do you think teaching about the three P’s can help? Looking around you at relatives, friends, colleagues, and others, do you understand why some are more resilient than others? Or is it mostly a mystery? What are your thoughts?
Something else to consider. Are totebaggers as a group highly resilient, or is it more that they have not been severely tested?
I’m not crazy about some of these questions, particularly the first one. Do you like these questions? Do you typically use them in conversations? What are some other good questions?
For fun, let’s get to know each other better and answer these questions in the comments. If you’re up for this, answer all seven or pick a few.
1. What’s your story?
2. What was the highlight of your day (or week)?
3. What is one of your most defining moments in life?
4. What book has influenced you the most?
5. What was your dream job growing up?
6. If you could know the absolute and total truth to one question, what question would you ask?
7. Why did you choose your profession?
Who knew it was a mistake to make your bed too often?
What cleaning mistakes do you make? Which places do you neglect to clean on a regular basis? Are you a clean freak, at least about some things? Or are you a slob? Or in between? Any cleaning tips to share? And tell us how you handle any family conflicts that arise from different preferences among household members.
I was fortunate that I loved my careers, if not always the specific jobs. I even loved many of the part-time jobs I had while going to school because they involved photography, which I enjoy and even considered as a career..
What about you? Do you love your career? Do you love your job? If not, why do you stick with it? What “passions” would be part of your fantasy jobs? What have you observed among people around you?