This writer had an unusual way of commemorating her 30th birthday.
My 20s passed away Thursday morning at their home in Brooklyn. It has been confirmed that they expired after a lengthy battle with expectations. At the time of their departure, they had just turned 10 years old.
My 20s are best known for creating, producing and distributing panic attacks. Although most episodes of my 20s’ panic attacks were centered on career issues, several of the most attention-grabbing installments were stand-alone: They include such classics as “Casual Sex,” “Could Be Doing More to Save Democracy” and, of course, the annual holiday episode, “Immediate Family.”…
The final hours of my 20s were spent in the presence of dear platonic friends. At the time of passing, there was singing. One friend described the gathering as “kind of like a celebration.”
My 20s are survived by my 30s, who ask for privacy at this time.
Here’s another article marking the end of a “period” in the author’s life.
AN OPEN BREAK-UP LETTER TO ESTROGEN
How would you characterize your 20s or other decades you’ve lived? How do you remember the expectations, relationships, and goals of your past when compared to today? Highs and lows? Do the stages of your life have definitive themes or do they all meld together? Do you miss aspects of some decades, or do you wish them “good riddance!” Would you like a redo for some years? No need to try to be clever like the linked essays, but you can write obituaries if you’d like or just simply reflect on olden days.
What was your first apartment like? Bare bones or tastefully furnished? What about your college dorm experience? Your first home, with or without a partner? Did you get help from parents or from others? For those with adult children, what has been their experience? Give us details. Any lessons learned or regrets?
Does this look familiar to anyone?
Elizabeth Holmes used a deep voice (fake by many accounts), black turtlenecks, and blonde hair to cultivate a look that helped as she guided her company Theranos to a meteoric rise and later disastrous fall. She’s now facing federal criminal charges that she tried to defraud investors and patients.
Even if you’ve never achieved the “success” and failure of Holmes, can you relate to cultivating a particular look, either for business or pleasure? Have you ever tried to make your voice sound deeper and more authoritative? Do you have a clothing style or uniform that you consistently wear? Have you colored your hair? This may seem more geared to women, but men also frequently try to build a certain image in the way they dress or behave.
Anything else you find particularly fascinating about the Theranos story?
Elizabeth Holmes’ Baritone
Why the Black Turtleneck Was So Important to Elizabeth Holmes’s Image
It has a long and symbolic history.
Why we care so much about Elizabeth Holmes’s “bad hair”
It’d be easy to believe that the Theranos founder’s split ends were part of the scam. But there’s a simpler answer.
It might not be a leap, then, to suggest that Holmes’s hair was just another calculated component of her aesthetic. It is, of course, dyed blonde, an unexceptional quality for an American white woman to have, but made slightly more exceptional when noting that while just 2 percent of the population has naturally blonde hair, 48 percent of female CEOs at S&P 500 companies do, which could have been Holmes’s way, conscious or otherwise, of attempting to become one of them.
25 Things That Were So Normal To Do In 1995 That Gen Z Will Never Understand
We used to talk to humans on the phone a lot back in the day.
Do you relate to any of these? Anything else you would add to the list of things that younger generations will never understand?
Candy? Cocktails? Silly movies? What do you indulge in while traveling?
Room-Service Carbs, Airport Cocktails and Other Guilty Travel Pleasures – WSJ
A chronic illness can affect your life in many ways.
It’s hard to be a good employee when you need extended time off. It’s hard to be a good friend when you cancel plans last minute. It’s hard to be a good partner or parent when you barely have the energy to get out of bed. No matter how much you try to explain, people expect you to get better already — and when you don’t, they resent you, consciously or not. Some relationships end entirely, casualties of an unfair and misunderstood illness, while others get stronger as you find your true support system.
But most of all, your relationship with yourself changes. You grieve a version of yourself that doesn’t exist anymore, and a future version that looks different than you’d planned.
You might have to give up career goals, hobbies and family plans, learning a “new normal” in their place. “In trauma therapy we call this ‘integration,’ the task of integrating a new reality into one’s life and worldview,” Mr. Lundquist said. “This emotional work can look a lot like grief therapy for a passing loved one.” Try to be patient as you get to know the new version of yourself.
Side effects from the ongoing treatment for a chronic illness can be a source of constant worry. The financial burden may affect your sense security and overall quality of life. It’s easy to start feeling helpless and overly dependent on others.
Any thoughts or advice?
The Moneyist column is one of my guilty pleasures. It bills itself as “the ethics and etiquette of your financial affairs”, and typically features a money problem tinged with family drama. Like this one from Disgruntled Wife:
I just discovered that my husband is leaving his personal savings …to his mother
As is the case with every column, the Moneyist responds and then readers chime in with their comments.
How would you advise Disgruntled Wife? What about these other sticky situations?
My dad didn’t love me! He only left me $10,000
My boyfriend and I have two kids — should I pay off his $130,000 student debt?
The next time you go anywhere, remember the $1 tip is dead
Can you personally relate to these cases? Do you have any Moneyist stories?
This tweet is from a daughter whose mother died leaving behind many of her best things that she was never able to enjoy because she was saving them for some distant day.
Are you finding the right balance between enjoying it now and prudently saving for the future?
Don’t wait, enjoy it now
I’ve done a lot of thinking about life and death, growing older and mortality in the past few months. I was quite depressed for a while, could not escape the thought that one could be perfectly fine today, but wake up tomorrow with a lump or a pain that was going to change everything.
Feeling better now and have come to realize that this is the time to enjoy life more and do the things that bring me joy. DH and I are planning two trips this year, and I am not going to delay them because what if my parents need me or maybe we should pay off a few more bills first, we are going this year.
I just purchased a new comforter and window shades for our bedroom and am having the room painted next week. Not 100% necessary, but it will make me happy every day.
What else? What can you do today or this month or this year that makes you happy?
Let’s talk tech.
33 Mostly Free Ways to Fix Your Family’s Tech Problems – WSJ
Do these tips make sense to you? What other advice do you have for tech problems?
I can relate to this:
Spam calls have stopped people from answering their phones
Plus mostly good stuff on the horizon:
From Wi-Fi to Bluetooth to 5G, All Your Wireless Is About to Change – WSJ
Does you have any questions about technology issues? Post them in the comments and we may be able to help each other out.