by Honolulu Mother
This NYMag article briefly summarizes a much longer Harvard Business Review article by Adam Grant and Reb Rebele on the trade-off between being a giver at work (good for the organization!) and being too generous with yourself (bad for you!) The sweet spot is apparently to be generous, but to know your limits and keep something back for yourself.
Where do you fall along the spectrum from taker to selfless giver (there’s a grid in the HBR article), at work and at home? I suspect most of us will self-report as self-protective givers, the sweet spot, but I also suspect that category covers a wide range from aiming to have everyone owing you just one more favor than you owe them, to being an almost-selfless giver who holds just enough in reserve to avoid burnout. And, I suspect most of us are closer to the selfless-giver end of the spectrum at home than at work.