by Grace aka costofcollege
What If Marriage Is Overrated?
Bella DePaulo, a social psychologist, studies single people.
… For years, DePaulo has been chipping away at the commonly held belief — a myth, in her view and according to her research — that marriage offers unique happiness and well-being benefits. These findings are seriously overstated or misleading, DePaulo has argued, and if there weren’t so much intense social pressure to get married, a lot more people would be single, and many of them might be happier as a result.
Maybe more people should consider staying single, according to DePaulo.
... they are more likely than married people to encourage, help and socialize with their friends and neighbors. They are also more likely to visit, support, advise and stay in touch with their siblings and parents.
In fact, people who live alone are often the life of their cities and towns. They tend to participate in more civic groups and public events, enroll in more art and music classes, and go out to dinner more often than people who live with others. Single people, regardless of whether they live alone or with others, also volunteer more for social service organizations, educational groups, hospitals and organizations devoted to the arts than people who are married.
Most totebaggers are married so that may color their opinions on this topic. I question the view that single people contribute more to cities and town, but I believe a mix of singles and marrieds makes for a more vibrant community.
What’s your opinion on this? What have you observed or experienced that influences your view? How do you imagine your life if you (married) had never married or if you (single) were to marry? Do you think people have a “personality” better suited for being married or being single? Other thoughts?