Sad News & Condolence Page

Last week a terrible tragedy befell the family of our long time and beloved administrator known as “Kim”. Her adult son was killed in a highway accident when the car in which he was a passenger was struck by a vehicle from the oncoming direction that lost control and crossed over.

This page will stay up for a while to accumulate messages from the large anonymous and mostly lurking Totebag community, much like the online pages put up by funeral homes. Those of us who have full contact details will represent the community with flowers and/or other appropriate gesture on everyone’s behalf.

Kim will be taking an immediate hiatus from her admin duties, so please direct all communication to me at memetotebag@outlook.com, and resend to me any topics you may have submitted to her in the past ten days.

46 thoughts on “Sad News & Condolence Page

  1. Kim, I am speechless. I have never met you, but I care deeply about you, and I am so very sorry.

  2. Kim, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I echo North of Boston in that we have never met, but I care deeply for you and am heartbroken for you. I’m keeping you and your family in my prayers.

  3. Meme – if there is a way to send you money for a memorial (flowers/meals/donations), please let me know.

  4. Kim, I know you loved and admired your son’s spirit of adventure, of get-up-and-go, his willingness to dig into whatever far-flung project he was working on. I send my condolences, and wishes that memories of him will give you strength.
    If there is any way this community can help, please let us know.

  5. Kim – although we have never met, my heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I will keep you in my prayers.

  6. Meme – if there is any way to send donations/flowers etc. please let us know. The Totebag posters and their families are such a dear community.

  7. I am so incredibly sorry for what you and your family are going through. The thought of losing a child is heartbreaking, and losing a child at the holidays is even more unimaginable. I am deeply saddened by your loss and thinking of your son and the memories that you are all sharing. If there is anything at all that we can do for you, I am here.

  8. Kim,
    I’m so, so sorry, my heart breaks for you and I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I wish there was some way to do more and express more to you so that we could be of greater comfort to you.

  9. Thank you all for your kind thoughts. We are a strong family, but we need the support and love from friends and family to survive this loss.

  10. Oh Kim, my heart breaks for you and your family. I join everyone in deep sympathy for this unspeakable loss to you and your family.

  11. The cruelty of this year knows no bounds. Kim, you have suffered the unspeakable and wish you strength and courage. My deepest condolences.

  12. Kim, I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve been thinking about you and your family ever since I heard. My deepest condolences.

  13. Kim, I am so sorry for your loss. I know no words can express what you are going through – I send all my love and big hugs to you and your family.

  14. Kim – I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. Words are so inadequate. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

  15. Kim – you have been so much on my mind since I heard. What a shocking, terrible event. I’m so very, very sorry. Holding you in my thoughts.

  16. Kim, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Though we may have never met in person, my heart goes out to you and your family, and I am sending virtual hugs from afar. I hope that you and your family can find some solace in each other.

    Please know that this entire community loves and respects you, and that we are grieving with you.

  17. Kim – I am so sorry, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I can not imagine pain you are in, know you are loved.

  18. Kim I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Words are so inadequate. Holding you and your family in my thoughts.

  19. Kim, I am so very sorry and just heartbroken for your loss. Please know that so many of us are thinking of you.

  20. Kim, I am so very sorry and just heartbroken for your loss. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers.

  21. Kim, I have no words for your unspeakable loss. I am thinking about you constantly. Please lean on us.

  22. For Kim:

    Dirge Without Music
    Edna St. Vincent Millay

    I am not resigned to the shutting away of loving hearts in the hard ground.
    So it is, and so it will be, for so it has been, time out of mind:
    Into the darkness they go, the wise and the lovely. Crowned
    With lilies and with laurel they go; but I am not resigned.

    Lovers and thinkers, into the earth with you.
    Be one with the dull, the indiscriminate dust.
    A fragment of what you felt, of what you knew,
    A formula, a phrase remains,—but the best is lost.

    The answers quick and keen, the honest look, the laughter, the
    love,—
    They are gone. They are gone to feed the roses. Elegant and curled
    Is the blossom. Fragrant is the blossom. I know. But I do not
    approve.
    More precious was the light in your eyes than all the roses in the
    world.

    Down, down, down into the darkness of the grave
    Gently they go, the beautiful, the tender, the kind;
    Quietly they go, the intelligent, the witty, the brave.
    I know. But I do not approve. And I am not resigned.

  23. Kim.
    This blog and you all have held me up in ways you will never know……..now, in some way, our lives are all diminished by your loss.
    At this time of inexplicable suffering, I turn to my faith and offer for you and yours the prayers that have carried me through some dark times. May you find grace and peace in the consolation that your faith offers.
    In the weeks and months ahead may this community be a source of comfort and refuge.
    May his memory be a blessing and may he Rest In Peace.

  24. Kim, I am heartbroken for you and your family. I cannot even begin to imagine your grief. I am sending you all my strength and condolences. You are one of the kind persons here. This blog is better with you.

  25. Kim, I am deeply grieved by the news of your son’s untimely death. You will remain in my thoughts and prayers.

  26. Kim, I am so terribly sorry.

    I will pray for you and your family. If there is anything we can do, feel free to reach out – I will send meme my contact info. We aren’t that far away IRL.

  27. OMG Kim, I am so very, very sorry. I don’t know what else to say, but please know that I’m praying for you and your family.

  28. Oh Kim, I am so sad and heartbroken to read this news. I pray that we can share the burden of your grief, and when it feels too much for you we can carry a piece of it on your behalf. I am sending love to you and your family.

  29. Kim, I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine the heartbreak you and your family are feeling now. My deepest condolences to you and your family. May his memory be a blessing.

  30. Kim, I offer my deepest condolences and pray for strength for you and your family.

    This blog has offered so much to so many people, especially to mostly lurkers like me. I hope this place provides you some solace and distraction as you try to cope.

  31. Kim, I am truly sorry for your devastating loss. Your son was deeply loved and will never be forgotten. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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